A private AI that doesn't train on your data: what actually matters for AI privacy

When you ask an AI something personal, medical, legal, financial, or just none-of-anyone's-business, a fair question is: where does that conversation go? Most chat AIs answer this with a vague privacy page and a toggle buried in settings. The honest version is more specific, and it comes down to four things.

The four things that actually matter

1. Training: does the provider train future models on your conversations? Many do by default, with opt-out buried in settings. Your private prompts can become part of a model other people query.
2. Identity: is your account tied to a real-world identity — a phone number, a Google login, a card? The more tied, the easier it is to associate every conversation with you personally.
3. Payment trail: a card on file is a permanent link between your name, your bank, and your usage — and a vector for a chargeback or a frozen account.
4. Deletion: can you actually delete your conversations and whatever the AI 'remembers' about you, completely, on demand? Or just 'request deletion' and hope?

A service can have a beautiful privacy page and fail all four. 'We take your privacy seriously' is not a technical claim. Training-by-default, a card on file, and a Google login are.

How Aether handles each

• Training: we don't train on your conversations. Your prompts are not a dataset.
• Identity: email signup, no phone number, no social login required.
• Payment: pay-per-use credits with no card on file — crypto accepted (Bitcoin, USDT, and more), so there's no bank link and no account a payment processor can freeze.
• Deletion: you can view, edit, and wipe everything Aether remembers about you from the Memory panel, anytime — and delete conversations directly.

Give me a frank, non-judgmental rundown of my options — medical, legal, and practical — for a sensitive situation I don't want tied to my name. Be direct and specific.

Privacy isn't a feeling, it's a set of concrete choices: no training, no card, no forced identity, real deletion. Hold any 'private AI' to those four, and most marketing claims fall apart fast.